Before you start you might like to read ‘That’s My Kink – An Introduction‘.
I used a random number generator to select which kink I would start my ‘That’s My Kink’ journey with and I hoped I’d get one that would ease me in slowly, I’m not entirely sure that has happened. We are also going to be covering each kink weekly for our #ProudToBeKinky Patrons which means they will get to hear Bakji’s perspective on all the kink’s I discuss and this isn’t exactly one he’s into, so this is definitely going to be fun!
First of all, let’s start with the why this ‘kink’ isn’t as straightforward as it seems. I try not to make this blog one of gender binaries and try very hard not to gender my posts unnecessarily. When it comes to this particular interest though it very often will involve two cisgendered men. However, I don’t want anyone to feel left out or unloved, so I’d like to make it clear that my queer pervy heart (and fanny) is happy to befriend and perv over all people no matter their gender identity.
Gender Binary – The gender binary is the classification of sex and gender into two distinct, opposite and disconnected forms of masculine and feminine. Gender binary is one general type of a gendersystem.
Cisgender – denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.
I am also aware that it is often problematic to fetishise a person or a group of people due to an aspect of themselves they cannot control. Having been fetishised for being bisexual in the past I get how that isn’t fun, but again, I hope my awareness of this means that when I do get my perv on over guys fucking I do so with affection and with an understanding that being a gay/queer/bi/pan man isn’t all fucking and sucking.
With the serious stuff covered, let’s move on to the sexy fuckery and let me explain why two dudes going at it gets me off.
From my perspective, this is an interesting kink of mine, because cocks aren’t my area of expertise. I am not the most confident when it comes to pleasuring guys, though FemDom has actually helped with that, and overall my attraction to men comes with knowing the man, whereas with ladies I’m just slutty and I don’t need the emotional connection at all. When it comes to watching guys together all that goes out the window. I am ready at any given point to witness the sexual shenanigans of two or more fellas getting sexy.
In 2018 Bakji and I attended a fetish event with a friend of hours, and while we had some extremely hot sexy action between the three of us, which obviously was the highlight of the night, what came a close second for me was the number of guys there fucking. My eyes were glued to the male couples and thankfully due to the nature of the event, there was no need for me to disguise this.
There is also no porn that gets me turned on more than gay porn. For me, it oozes sex. It seems more raw, more primal and more intense than any other kind of porn.
One of my top fantasies and perhaps one of the most likely to never happen is to sit and watch two (or more) guys fucking while I am allowed to sit in close proximity masturbating. I don’t want to touch them or be touched by them, this isn’t a threesome or a gangbang fantasy, it is purely about being a voyeur.
That said I’ve often thought I would like a MMF threesome, but even then what I’m into is the idea of those two guys with me fucking each other, my desire to be part of the threesome is really quite minimal! If I’m totally honest the only way in which I get genuinely turned on by the idea of a MMF threesome is if I imagine it as a ‘forced’ bi scene. Which if Bakji decided he was into I would leap into action with planning that straight away, but alas he is most definitely a straighty and my idea of forced is ‘forced with consent’ otherwise it’s just shitty behaviour (not to mention likely to be abusive).
Forced-Bi – Forced bi within a BDSM context is where the Dominant partner ‘forces’ their submissive partner to engage in same-sex sexual activity. Often when the submissive partner does not identify as bisexual ordinarily. This sometimes coincides with getting off on control and humiliation too.
I’ve had this interest for as long as I can remember, this pre-dates nearly all of my other kinks. When I first gained access to porn navigating to the gay porn section was one of the first things I did, I can’t say why. Perhaps it was just curiosity which turned into something more, perhaps the enjoyment was always there and porn just allowed me a more graphic experience.
It might be worth noting that in my rebellious youth where I cared very little for age restrictions on clubs and bars and security folk round my way weren’t much into asking for ID especially when you were tall and hung out with lesbians 10 years your senior that I spent most of my weeks frequenting LGBT establishments. A cornerstone of which was the men’s toilets being of no use for a wee because of all the fucking the guys were doing in there. Which meant the queue for the ladies loo was always massively because everyone was using them. On more than one occasion seeing a rare cubicle free I’d brazenly stride through the fucking to use the loo. Maybe all that exposure turned my mind deviant, who knows, and who cares!
I suspect lots of people will share this kink with me and if you’ve ever written about it then please do leave a link in the comments section and if you’ve never written about it before but are thinking now the times, get to it and come back with your link when you’re finished.
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