[That’s My Kink] Blood Play

Content Warning: The title says it all. Contains strong theme of blood and enjoyment of it, including images showing small amounts of blood.

Not all of the kinks I’m going to discuss for ‘That’s My Kink‘ are going to be kinks I’ve played with a lot. In fact some I haven’t managed to dabble in at all yet. Bloodplay crept into our scenes this year and therefore falls into the not played with a lot category.

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[That’s My Kink] Watching Guys Fuck Guys!

Before you start you might like to read ‘That’s My Kink – An Introduction‘.

I used a random number generator to select which kink I would start my ‘That’s My Kink’ journey with and I hoped I’d get one that would ease me in slowly, I’m not entirely sure that has happened. We are also going to be covering each kink weekly for our #ProudToBeKinky Patrons which means they will get to hear Bakji’s perspective on all the kink’s I discuss and this isn’t exactly one he’s into, so this is definitely going to be fun!

First of all, let’s start with the why this ‘kink’ isn’t as straightforward as it seems. I try not to make this blog one of gender binaries and try very hard not to gender my posts unnecessarily. When it comes to this particular interest though it very often will involve two cisgendered men. However, I don’t want anyone to feel left out or unloved, so I’d like to make it clear that my queer pervy heart (and fanny) is happy to befriend and perv over all people no matter their gender identity.

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[Kink] That’s My Kink – An Introduction!

FlossDoesLife readers and listeners of #ProudToBeKinky could probably list a fair number of my kinks. Some, like FemDom, get a lot of coverage, others like using gags, are just a fleeting mention. Then there are the kinks I’m curious about but haven’t tried yet, but that doesn’t make my interest in them any less valid. It is the beginning of a new year, 2019 don’t ya know, which seems to me to be a perfect time to start discussing all the kinky interests I have.

We have 52 weeks ahead of us. That is 52 weeks of blogging goodness. Why not bring 52 kinks to the table as well. I’ll be sharing one of my kinks each week and by the end of the year, I’ll be doing a quiz to check you were all paying attention. Maybe there will be a prize to celebrate the reader with the best Floss knowledge.

At the time of writing this introduction, I have 46 kinks on my list. Which means I need to remember or discover 6 more before November!

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[Community] Don’t Be Like Gollum

There’s a chance I will get shot down in flames for this post and I’m sat here weighing up the pros and cons of having my rant and I’ve decided I’m willing to lose the readers that disagree.  

Without further ado here are the points I’d like to discuss:

  • Being pretentious doesn’t improve your skill level
  • Being like Gollum with your knowledge? That sucks!
  • Assuming makes an ass out of you and, well, you!

I’m going to use rope as my example to lay out the reason behind my thinking. Make no mistake though I love rope bondage and I have had some amazing experiences within the rope community and know some truly awesome people who would cite rope as their main kink and passion in life.

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[Sex] Do I need a P in my V?

This week on Instagram someone asked if they could make an enquiry about something personal, it turned out that their question was regarding whether or not I would class myself as a ‘size queen’. I replied that no, size of the penis was not something that I prioritised in my partners. I explained that the chemistry between us and alignment of kink and sexual interests was of far more interest to me, amongst other things of course.

They continued with ‘yeah, yeah, but if all that’s in place do you have a preference for size?’ Which led to my explaining that not all my sexual partners have had penises, and in the absence of a penis I still can and do have really fulfilling sexual and kinky experiences and when a penis is present its usage is irrelevant compared to whether or not the person attached to it is a skilled and passionate lover.

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[FemDom Friday] The Secret to Success

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One of the most common questions I get asked about FemDom is ‘where do I begin’. After establishing that your partner wants to be Dominated and that you want to do the Dominating people suddenly panic about how to go about doing that, and what formula they can follow to get it right. I not only understand the thinking behind this question, but it was a question I asked myself before I started to get my confidence in Topping Bakji.

The secret to worrying about this less is a lot simpler than you’d think, and if you can take it to heart and truly believe it your FemDom sessions will surge forward with much enjoyment for you both. The key to FemDom success?

They Want Your Attention.

I made it bigger and bolder because I want you to seriously consider what it is I am saying and commit it to memory and remind yourself of it every time you think you might be getting something wrong.

I can think of a multitude of times where I fumbled during a scene, took too long to decide what to do next, generally thought the whole scene was a bag of scrap and worried that Bakji was hating every minute of it. If you ask Bakji however many times that has been the case? Zero. That’s right, not once has he noticed anything being amiss. All he’s ever focused on is the the fact I’m doing sexy stuff to him. In the pauses where I’m thinking, or wondering what to do next, he is anticipating just how sexy the next thing will be.

Your actions don’t have to be fancy and elaborate for a FemDom session to be fun, especially not in the early days. If you’ve never explored the Top/bottom dynamic before, and things like bondage and blindfolds are new too, then the most simple of sessions can actually be mind blowing.

Even now when my own scenes have moved forward a little, and we do on occasions indulge in some more intense kinks, I don’t forget the simpler acts. Using simple under bed restraints, blindfolding your partner and kissing every inch of them, might seem really tame to some people. The person tied down though is likely to end up aching for more, and probably eager for attention that perhaps has a more sexual direction, especially if you’ve carefully avoided their more intimate areas as you play.

Being the focus of someone’s attention is delightful, and having someone be at your mercy (in a sexy and consensual way of course) is the flip-side of that and it too is wonderful position to be in.

It can be all to easy to overthink what it means to be the one in charge of a scene, and yes as time and dynamics progress the responsibilities and intricacies of that may well grow. In your early days of exploration though there is nothing wrong with keeping it simple and lavishing your bottom with lots of sexy attention that will have them weak at the knees and desperate to come.


This is the eleventh article in a 12 part series, the final instalment ‘Enjoy Yourself and Have Fun’ is coming soon. You can hear more of my thoughts on FemDom and Kink by tuning in to the #ProudToBeKinky Podcast, or you can follow me on Twitter and Instagram or you can send a friend request on Fetlife.

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[Sinful Sunday] Striptease

I wasn’t sure if I’d get in on the Sinful Sunday action this week, but after some long overdue kinky action with the gorgeous Bakji, I didn’t forget about my Sinful Sunday lovelies and I photographed a little striptease just for you …

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